Tips to Saving a Relationship – Communicate, Compromise and Be Consistent

You want to go about saving a relationship – namely yours! That is good. But you need to go about it properly. It helps to have a plan, so let’s see if we can set you on the right road to reconciliation with your loved one. This is going to take some time and effort on your part; do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

Nothing worthwhile comes without effort, you probably know that. Decide that you ARE going to fix your relationship, you will do whatever it takes, and NOTHING will stand in your way. Keep the love you have for your ex in front of you, in your mind, and it will guide you through the rough spots. OK, now we are ready to get started.

Communicate

Talk to your partner, and communicate. You have heard that often enough, but what does it really mean? It means actually listening to him or her, valuing their opinions, being patient, and having a real discussion. Be gentle, even, or especially, when talking about things where you think you know more than your mate.

Maybe you do. But you do not know everything. Listen hard, and think while you are listening. What does she really mean? Do I need to change my views? Is she in fact right? Do not simply assume things automatically, and you just might learn something new.

The key to saving a relationship is to put some energy into it. Perhaps you were drifting along before, letting your partner do most of the maintenance work required to keep your relationship going. That is not a good policy for the long run.

You need to be actively involved every minute of every day, or your relationship, and your partner, will drift away. Do not make excuses for this or that. Your ex is not perfect, and neither are you. In the final analysis, you cannot make excuses and a successful relationship at the same time. You will have to choose one or the other.

Compromise

This is something else that you have no doubt heard too often, but it is nonetheless true. Reaching for compromise is one of the magic arts to saving a relationship. Having that special someone in your life is very different from living alone. You have to take the other person into account when making your plans and decisions, be they large or small.

You can make this a fun activity by thinking of it as sharing your life. You may resent giving up some of your independence. But you are gaining access to a whole other person, including his thoughts, habits, emotions, hobbies and knowledge. Not to mention his love, warmth and affection.

You can look on it as setting off on a long journey of discovery, where sometimes you do things his way for no good reason other than that you love him, and he loves you. Surprise! By doing this, you set the example, and encourage him to do the same for you next time (however, do not keep score!).

Be Consistent

… and do not take anything, including your partner, for granted. Not now and not in the future, after you are back together. You must be pro-active to save your relationship now, using the ideas I talked about above. However, do not slack off later on. Keep thinking of your partner, and keep right on saving your relationship every single day.

Do those little things that show you love her, and are thinking of her. Pick up flowers on the way home. Cook his favorite meal. Let her have the TV to watch her shows. Always listen, always be patient and flexible, starting today. This will give your relationship a fresh, loving start. Try it and see!